Men’s wellbeing
Sex addiction signs: when sexual behaviour feels out of control
A strong sex drive is normal. But some men feel their sexual behaviour has become something they can not control. Recognising the signs of sex addiction, or compulsive sexual behaviour, is the first step towards balance.
In short: Compulsive sexual behaviour means repeated sexual thoughts, urges or behaviour that feel out of control and continue despite harm to relationships, work, health or finances. It is different from a high libido. Signs include repeated failed attempts to cut back, secrecy, risky behaviour and using sex to escape stress. Counselling is the main support, alongside care for stress, sleep and mood.
High sex drive vs compulsive behaviour
A high sex drive feels satisfying and fits your life. Compulsive behaviour feels driven, often brings guilt, and causes harm. Read high sex drive in men.
Common signs
- Spending a lot of time on sexual thoughts, porn or hook-ups
- Repeatedly trying and failing to cut back
- Continuing despite relationship, work or financial problems
- Secrecy and lying
- Risky sexual behaviour
- Using sex to cope with stress, anxiety or low mood
- Feeling empty or guilty afterwards
Effects on sexual health
- Erection problems with a partner, see porn-induced erectile dysfunction
- Higher STI risk, see STI symptoms in men
- Relationship breakdown
What helps
- Counselling, especially cognitive behavioural therapy
- Support groups
- Managing stress, sleep and mood
- Reducing triggers such as late-night screen time
- Honest conversations with a partner when ready
Where to get support
For counselling and mental health support in South Africa, contact SADAG. If you feel hopeless or unsafe, seek urgent help.
How we can help
Our naturopaths support men with the physical side, such as sleep, stress, erections and overall wellbeing, and encourage counselling alongside. Read signs of porn addiction.
Why men choose our natural approach
Walk in or consult remotely
Walk in at Buccleuch, Sandton, with parking available, or consult by phone or video from anywhere in South Africa.
Natural and non-surgical
Herbal remedies and practical guidance, with no injections or surgery.
Faster appointments
Enquiries answered 24/7, with same-day appointments often available.
Transparent pricing
Consultations are R2,500, with any remedy costs confirmed before you commit.
Private self-check: 5 quick questions
Answer these honestly before you try anything new or book. They help you describe what is happening and get more from your first consultation.
- Has your interest in sex dropped noticeably over the past year?
- Do you feel tired most days, even after a full night in bed?
- Has your weight around the middle increased?
- Have stress, low mood or poor sleep become more common?
- Have you noticed weaker erections or fewer morning erections?
Two or more yes answers suggest that energy, sleep, stress or weight may be affecting your drive. These are areas where natural, practical support often makes a real difference, and a naturopath can help you work out where to start.
What happens at your first consultation
- Walk in or book online, call +27 10 205 9855 or WhatsApp +27 81 823 1313. In Gauteng, walk in at 199 Vanessa Street, Buccleuch, Sandton, where parking is available. Outside Gauteng, choose a confidential phone or video consultation. Enquiries are answered 24/7.
- Talk privately with a naturopath about your symptoms, health history, lifestyle and goals.
- Receive a personalised natural plan, with any remedy costs confirmed upfront.
- Follow up in person or remotely so your progress is reviewed and your plan adjusted.
Your health and safety
Our naturopaths use natural remedies and lifestyle support, and always check your health history and current medicines first. If anything needs medical attention we tell you honestly and refer you to an appropriately registered medical professional. Avoid unregistered “enhancement” products sold online or at markets, as SAHPRA has warned that some contain hidden ingredients.
Seek urgent medical care for chest pain, an erection lasting more than four hours, sudden weakness or other sudden symptoms.
Consultation price
A consultation is R2,500, in person or remote, and your naturopath confirms any further costs before you go ahead. See our mens clinic prices for details.
Frequently asked questions
Is sex addiction real?
Compulsive sexual behaviour is recognised as a condition when urges feel out of control and cause harm.
How do I know if I am a sex addict?
If you repeatedly fail to cut back and your behaviour harms your relationships, work, health or finances, it is worth seeking support.
Can compulsive sexual behaviour cause erectile dysfunction?
Heavy porn use and compulsive behaviour can affect arousal and erections with a partner.
Where can I get help in South Africa?
SADAG offers support and can help you find counselling services.
How much does a consultation cost?
A consultation is R2,500, and any remedy costs are confirmed with you before you go ahead.
Book your consultation today
Walk in at our Sandton practice any time, day or night, or book ahead. Outside Gauteng? Book a remote consultation.
References and further reading
Reviewed by George Mulaudzi, Naturopath. This page is general information and does not replace a personal consultation. If you have chest pain, sudden symptoms or a medical emergency, seek urgent medical care.
