Men’s sexual health
Sexual health questions men are too embarrassed to ask, answered
Many men search online at midnight rather than ask anyone. Here are honest answers to the sexual health questions men are too embarrassed to ask, and where to go for private help.
In short: Men commonly worry about penis size, lasting long enough, weaker erections, semen changes, smells, bumps and low desire. Most of these concerns are common, many are normal, and almost all can be improved. A private consultation with a naturopath is a confidential place to ask anything without judgement.
Am I too small?
Probably not. The average erect penis is about 13 cm long. Most men who worry are average. See average penis size and grower vs shower.
How long should I last?
Average time from penetration to ejaculation is about five to seven minutes. Lasting under a minute most times is considered premature ejaculation. Read how long should a man last in bed.
Why are my erections weaker than before?
Stress, poor sleep, alcohol, weight and circulation are common reasons. Weaker erections can also be an early sign of heart or blood sugar problems. See can erectile dysfunction be reversed.
Is it normal to lose my erection during sex?
It happens to most men sometimes. See losing erection during sex.
Why has my sex drive dropped?
Stress, tiredness, low mood, medicines and relationship issues are common causes. Read low libido in men over 40.
Is my semen normal?
Colour and thickness vary. Blood, a strong smell or a big change are worth checking. See sperm colour meaning.
Why does my penis smell?
Usually sweat or smegma. See penis smell causes.
What are these bumps or spots?
Many are harmless, such as pearly penile papules and white spots on the penis, but new or changing spots should be checked.
Is masturbating every day bad for me?
For most men it is normal. It may be a problem if it affects work, relationships or partnered sex.
Is my curve normal?
A slight curve is common. A new bend, pain or lump may be Peyronie’s disease. See is a curved penis normal.
Where can I ask privately?
Men’s Health Clinics offers discreet, confidential consultations with a naturopath in Sandton, open 24/7. Nothing you ask will shock us. We focus on natural, non-surgical support and refer you to an appropriately registered medical professional when needed.
Why men choose our natural approach
Walk in or consult remotely
Walk in at Buccleuch, Sandton, with parking available, or consult by phone or video from anywhere in South Africa.
Natural and non-surgical
Herbal remedies and practical guidance, with no injections or surgery.
Faster appointments
Enquiries answered 24/7, with same-day appointments often available.
Transparent pricing
Consultations are R2,500, with any remedy costs confirmed before you commit.
Private self-check: 5 quick questions
Answer these honestly before you try anything new or book. They help you describe what is happening and get more from your first consultation.
- How often can you get and keep an erection firm enough for sex: almost always, most of the time, sometimes, or rarely?
- Do you still notice morning or night-time erections?
- Have stress, poor sleep, alcohol, smoking or long hours increased recently?
- Do you take medicine for blood pressure, the heart, diabetes or mood?
- Has your interest in sex dropped noticeably over the past year?
If you answered “sometimes” or “rarely” to the first question, a consultation is a sensible next step. Morning erections that still happen are often a reassuring sign that lifestyle, stress or confidence are playing a part, which natural support can address well. A yes to question four means any remedy needs checking for interactions first.
What happens at your first consultation
- Walk in or book online, call +27 10 205 9855 or WhatsApp +27 81 823 1313. In Gauteng, walk in at 199 Vanessa Street, Buccleuch, Sandton, where parking is available. Outside Gauteng, choose a confidential phone or video consultation. Enquiries are answered 24/7.
- Talk privately with a naturopath about your symptoms, health history, lifestyle and goals.
- Receive a personalised natural plan, with any remedy costs confirmed upfront.
- Follow up in person or remotely so your progress is reviewed and your plan adjusted.
Your health and safety
Our naturopaths use natural remedies and lifestyle support, and always check your health history and current medicines first. If anything needs medical attention we tell you honestly and refer you to an appropriately registered medical professional. Avoid unregistered “enhancement” products sold online or at markets, as SAHPRA has warned that some contain hidden ingredients.
Seek urgent medical care for chest pain, an erection lasting more than four hours, sudden weakness or other sudden symptoms.
Consultation price
A consultation is R2,500, in person or remote, and your naturopath confirms any further costs before you go ahead. See our mens clinic prices for details.
Frequently asked questions
Is it normal to be embarrassed about sexual health?
Very. Most men find it hard to talk about, which is why we offer private, judgement-free consultations.
What is the average time a man lasts in bed?
Studies suggest about five to seven minutes from penetration to ejaculation on average.
Can I ask a naturopath about penis size?
Yes. Size worries are one of the most common reasons men consult us, and we give honest advice.
Are consultations confidential?
Yes. Consultations at Men’s Health Clinics are private and confidential.
How much does a consultation cost?
A consultation is R2,500, and any remedy costs are confirmed with you before you go ahead.
Book your consultation today
Walk in at our Sandton practice any time, day or night, or book ahead. Outside Gauteng? Book a remote consultation.
References and further reading
- Mayo Clinic: Erectile dysfunction, diagnosis and treatment
- Mayo Clinic: Premature ejaculation
- Mayo Clinic: Penis enlargement products, do they work?
Reviewed by George Mulaudzi, Naturopath. This page is general information and does not replace a personal consultation. If you have chest pain, sudden symptoms or a medical emergency, seek urgent medical care.
